Last Spring I wrote a 10-part series based on one of my very favorite books, “The Gifts of Imperfection” by Brene Brown. Each week for 10 weeks I shared one guidepost from the book, a few thoughts, plus a journal prompt. For an overview of each guidepost visit here.
Guidepost #3: Cultivate a Resilient Spirit – Let go of numbing and powerlessness
I have a feeling I’m going to say, “This is my favorite guidepost!” for the next 10 weeks but this is a really good one! When I write articles like how to lean into discomfort and about the cause of anxiety what I aim for are more ways to teach you (and me) how to cultivate resilience.
Next month’s book selection, Taking the Leap by Pema Chodron, is about this too. Basically we have zero tolerance for uncertainty. Uncertainty comes in many forms and is different for each of us. Uncertainty is anything that makes you feel like the ground beneath you is being taken away or just gone. Like financial worries, heated conversations, intimacy, grief, even your relationship with food or your body. Uncertainty is the inability to predict a safe future.
No wonder it’s hard to sit with! Resilience is being with the things that aren’t certain and not running away or numbing from them. We all have our versions of numbing. Bad TV, Facebook, wine…numbing takes the edge off of the things that make us uncomfortable.
Numbing has become quite acceptable. Anything you do to not touch the immediacy of your life is deemed ‘normal’. By cultivating resilience, slowly, you let go of your need to escape into the things that keep discomfort at bay. Resilience is the ability to feel fully and embrace it all.
To help you cultivate guidepost #3 I have a journal prompt for you:
If I embraced my fears…
Join me next Friday as we explore Guidepost #4: Cultivate Gratitude and Joy – Let go of scarcity and fear of the dark.
In the meantime bring this guidepost into practice by trying the journal prompt this week.
In light and love,